Our children learn about themselves through the relationships they have with us & they see themselves reflected in our eyes. When we look with acceptance, curiosity, & empathy, we help our children grow into themselves with confidence, self-love & hope.click here to read more
In caring relationships, we are open to the influence of each other. We look to each other for confirmation of how we see the world & even how we see ourselves. We trust the responses & opinions of those we love, and we take them into our hearts and minds. Experiences of joy & delight are amplified when we share them. Experiences of sadness & fear are less painful and lonely when we share them.click here to read more
We are all storytellers. Stories are part of being human. For children especially, the natural language for expressing feeling is through images & stories. It’s so important to find ways to help our children articulate their stories & understand them.
We know that one of the indicators of good mental health is being able to hold a coherent narrative about our life – a joined up story that makes sense of our own thoughts, feelings & motives, & also those of others in our story.click here to read more
Thank you for your interest & please let us know what you think of the book. Any reviews gratefully received – you’ll be helping to increase awareness of the Moffle stories & resources & will help us to reach more little Moffles & their families.
Buy ‘Billy Moffle’s Straight Lines’ – the latest book in the Moffle’s series
If you live in the UK you can buy the book directly from here using PayPal. The book is £9.99, second class postage & packing adds an additional £2.50. Please note, this is only for the UK.
‘Billy Moffle’s Straight Lines’ is also available to order in the UK from Amazon now.
If you live outside the UK, please use the contact form here to let us know where you are located & we will get back to you to confirm postage cost.
Countdown Klaxon! Just 3 days until publication of Billy Moffle’s Straight Lines 🤓 📚 It will be available to buy from Friday 13th May 2022 – definitely lucky for some 👍
It’s the second picture book in the Moffle series, written for families living with relational trauma. Billy’s story explores the impact of domestic violence on one little Moffle. Can making everything straight & tidy in his new home help to keep him safe?
Diversity exists & differences should be acknowledged, accepted & celebrated. As Maya Angelou said, ‘It is time for parents to teach young people early on that in diversity, there is beauty & there is strength.’
Promoting equity does not mean treating everyone the same. Equity occurs when we actively work to provide support to people based on their specific needs. There is no one size of support that fits all. Real equity & inclusion means making access to resources & opportunities obtainable & fair. The support an individual is given needs to be at a level which helps them to achieve their full potential.click here to read more
In Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy (DDP), the central therapeutic attitude is PACE – Playfulness, Acceptance, Curiosity & Empathy – & a focus is on helping parents & carers develop it towards their child.
Parenting sessions are an important first part of DDP, & they need to be more than just time for psychoeducation. They’re the time to build understanding, trust & safety in the therapist/parent relationship. The time for therapist & parent to become a therapeutic team.
Many parents & carers of children with relational trauma, come to DDP feeling traumatised themselves. Often, they are tired, experiencing compassion fatigue & a sense of failure. Finding the energy to be PACE-ful towards their child is not easy. Yet therapists can get frustrated if they feel parents & carers aren’t understanding or empathic towards their child quickly enough. The adults then feel judged & frustrated that the focus is on them.click here to read more
The second picture book in the Moffle series, Billy Moffle’s Straight Lines, will be coming out soon now. Here’s what Dan Hughes from the Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy Institute has to say about it – we’re so happy he’s a Moffles fan!
Have a look around the website & you’ll find other Moffle stories & resources free to download.
The first Moffle picture book, Tippy Moffle’s Mirror, is available to buy & also available on the website as a free audio download.
The Moffles have been written for care experienced children with relational trauma & the adults who love & care for them.
Sometimes I hear, ‘My child was exploding & PACE just made it worse!’ If you’re having a difficult moment with your child & they are becoming increasingly upset or angry, try to hold your confidence that your PACE-ful attitude (playfulness, acceptance, curiosity & empathy) can help. You just don’t need to use it all at once!
At tricky times when a child is going into fight/flight mode, you might find it helpful to ‘think A&E’. Focus on your acceptance & empathy & try not to ask your child too many questions.
Acceptance & empathy can help a child to feel safe & understood & this may help them to calm down.click here to read more