Self-compassion can be life changing.

It can feel so much harder to be compassionate to ourselves than to others. When we struggle in our parenting, we are often our own harshest critic – beating ourselves up for not meeting exacting standards. Here’s an invitation next time you mess up, to speak to yourself as you would to a dear friend who is struggling. This is an invitation to approach your imperfection with kindness & to see the opportunities for trying again.

There can never be too many times to remind you to act like a Moffle.

M Make moments matter. Just pausing now & then for a few deep breaths & observing your thoughts, feelings & body can develop your self-awareness.

O Offer yourself some kindness, as you would to a friend who is struggling. Self-compassion isn’t always easy, so notice this, too & take your time.

FFocus on one step at a time, as you work at self-care. Set small, achievable goals. On the days even these goals are too hard, again, try to offer yourself kindness.

FForgive yourself when you mess up. Conflict is an inevitable part of family life. Focus on repair & show your child that you’re invested in reconnecting with them.

LLook for the sparkling moments & celebrate small successes. Try to hold them in your heart. They can help to lighten the hard times.

EEmpathise with yourself, not only your child. Empathy grows when we’re curious about our thoughts & feelings, rather than rushing to judge ourselves.

SSlow down. Whenever you can. We rarely need to respond immediately to anything. Go back to ‘M’ & make moments matter.

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