We are all storytellers. Stories are part of being human. For children especially, the natural language for expressing feeling is through images & stories. It’s so important to find ways to help our children articulate their stories & understand them.
We know that one of the indicators of good mental health is being able to hold a coherent narrative about our life – a joined up story that makes sense of our own thoughts, feelings & motives, & also those of others in our story.
When we don’t understand our thoughts & feelings, we’re doomed to keep repeating the same mistakes. As Grosz says in The Examined Life: How We Lose & Find Ourselves, ‘Our childhoods leave in us…stories we never found a way to voice because no-one helped us to find the words. When we cannot find a way of telling our story, our story tells us, we dream these stories, we develop symptoms, or we find ourselves acting in ways we don’t understand’
There is hopefulness in knowing that a child with relational trauma can recover from very difficult experiences, when they have a loving adult in their lives who can help them to make sense of what has happened. An adult who helps co-create a story that lets them know it wasn’t their fault what happened to them, & that they will be ok. That their thoughts & feelings make sense in the context of what they have experienced. That they are loved.
The Moffle stories have been written with this in mind. We hope they will be a good resource for you & the little Moffles in your lives.